Biblical Sexuality – The Church’s most Prevalent Sin

Men of God,

I write to today not as one who lords it over you, but as a fellow servant under our Lord Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd who laid down His life for the sheep. Yet, as He Himself spoke with authority, powerfully and forcefully, not as the scribes, but as the Son of God. I must speak plainly and without compromise. The hour is late, and the wolves are among us, devouring souls because the watchmen have grown silent. Today, we must hear the Word of God afresh on a matter that strikes at the heart of creation itself: the divine distinction between man and woman that has been lost to modernity and permiscuity-Biblical Sexuality.

From the very beginning, in the Garden of Eden, God declared His design with unmistakable clarity. “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27). Male and female: not a spectrum, not a choice, not a social construct, but a fixed, glorious binary etched into the fabric of reality by the hand of the Almighty. And in this creation, He ordained an order: the man as head, the woman as helper, a patriarchal structure that reflects the very relationship within the Godhead of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. The Apostle Paul echoes this in Ephesians 5:23: “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.” This is not cultural baggage; it is eternal truth revealed in the very first words of Holy writ.

But the Church has sinned in her cowardice! We have failed to proclaim and defend this biblical patriarchy with the fervor it demands. Instead, we have whispered apologies, softened edges, and accommodated the spirit of the age. Pastors preach on grace without law, love without obedience, unity without distinction. We fear the world’s scorn more than God’s judgment, and in our silence, we have opened the floodgates to a torrent of rebellion against the Creator. It is seen in every Father’s day sermon and Mother’s Day sermon, in how leaders are chosen, in how even women are permitted to lead the prayer in churches.

Fruits of Egalatiarinism

Consider transgenderism, that tragic delusion sweeping through our culture like a plague. It is no accident that it flourishes where the Church has blurred God’s lines. When we refuse to teach that a man is a man by God’s decree, born to lead, protect, and provide and a woman is a woman, created to nurture, submit, and complement—we leave souls adrift in confusion. The transgender movement is not merely a personal struggle; it is a direct assault on Genesis 1, a lie that says, “Did God really say male and female?” Sound familiar? It’s the serpent’s hiss all over again. And we, the Church, bear the guilt because we have not thundered from our pulpits: “Thus says the Lord!” Instead, we offer therapy sessions and inclusive language, as if sin can be managed rather than mortified.

But it doesn’t stop there. This same failure births feminism, that insidious ideology that inverts God’s order and calls it liberation. Feminism whispers to women, “You don’t need a head; be your own authority.” It mocks the beauty of submission as outlined in Scripture as wives to husbands (Ephesians 5:22), women in quietness in the assembly (1 Timothy 2:11-12), replacing it with a clamor for equality that erases difference. Dear sisters, hear me: True freedom is found in obedience to Christ, not in grasping for the man’s role. It is found in imitating Sarah (1 Peter 3) and not the spirit of this age. And brothers, your silence has enabled this. When elders and deacons shy away from teaching patriarchal headship, feminism rushes in, leading to broken homes, emasculated men, and a generation of children who know neither fatherly authority nor motherly tenderness.

From this root spring a plethora of other sins, like weeds choking the garden. Egalitarianism in the Church dilutes the Gospel, turning elders into facilitators and worship into entertainment. Homosexuality gains ground when we forget that God’s design for sexuality is rooted in male-female complementarity. Divorce skyrockets as husbands abandon leadership and wives reject submission. Even abortion, that abomination, proliferates in a culture where womanhood is detached from motherhood, and manhood from protection. These are not isolated issues; they are fruits of the same poisoned tree of the Church’s refusal to define man and woman as God does.

Vigilance in Repentance

This is not a rant against the lost; it is a call to repentance for us, the household of God. We must confess our sin: “We have not loved You with our whole heart; we have not loved our neighbors as ourselves.” Our failure to uphold God’s patriarchal order is not a minor misstep but a rebellion against the Creator’s design, and it demands our collective contrition. Yet, praise be to God, there is mercy in Christ! He who forgave the woman at the well calls us back to the wellspring of truth. Repentance is not a one-time act but a vigilant, daily turning from sin to the Savior. We must return to Scripture with hearts broken and resolute, determined to live out God’s order in every sphere of life.

This vigilance begins in our homes. Men, teach your sons to be strong, sacrificial leaders like David, who slew giants for God’s glory, or Boaz, who protected and provided with covenant faithfulness. Train them to reject the passivity of Adam, who stood silent as Eve was deceived (Genesis 3:6). Women, nurture your daughters in the grace of womanhood, like Ruth, who trusted God’s provision, or Mary, who submitted to His will with a humble “Let it be to me according to your word” (Luke 1:38). Families, order your lives under the headship of Christ, modeling the beauty of Ephesians 5 in your daily interactions. Husbands, lead with love that lays down its life; wives, submit with the strength of a gentle and quiet spirit, precious in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:4).

This repentance extends to our churches. We must reject the temptation to soften God’s Word for the sake of cultural acceptance. No more vague sermons that skirt the hard edges of biblical anthropology. No more accommodating practices that blur God’s lines, like allowing women to lead in ways that contravene 1 Timothy 2:12. Instead, let us proclaim the full counsel of God, teaching that patriarchy is His gift, not a curse. Churches must exercise loving discipline, calling those who rebel against God’s order to repentance, just as Christ cleansed the temple of its defilement (John 2:15). We must be communities where men are equipped to lead with courage and women are celebrated for their God-given roles, reflecting the harmony of creation.

Vigilance in repentance also means engaging our culture with boldness. In the Keweenaw, where spiritual apathy often reigns, we see the consequences of our silence: schools promoting gender confusion, families fractured by divorce, and even churches prioritizing entertainment over truth. We must speak with the clarity of Jesus, who declared, “You are the salt of the earth” (Matthew 5:13). This is not a call to retreat but to advance—confronting lies with truth, loving our neighbors by pointing them to God’s design. It means fathers mentoring sons to stand firm in a world that mocks masculinity, mothers guiding daughters to embrace biblical femininity, and congregations standing as beacons of hope amidst the fog.

The cost of this vigilance will be high. The world will scorn us, as it scorned Christ. But the reward is eternal. Jesus promised, “Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 5:10). Let us be faithful, knowing that our labor is not in vain, for our King is building His Church, and the gates of hell will not prevail (Matthew 16:18).

But what about…

Let us turn first to the Apostle Paul’s piercing words in Romans 1, where he unmasks the downward spiral of idolatry. When men suppress the truth about God, He gives them over to their debased minds. “For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error” (Romans 1:26-27). Notice how Paul begins with “their women.” It is no mere coincidence; it is a divine indictment. In the order of creation, when women lead the charge in rebellion of exchanging the natural use of their bodies for what is unnatural. It signals a profound inversion of God’s patriarchal design and the beginning of disruption mirroring the Garden. Women, created as helpers under the headship of men, stepping out from under that authority, become the harbingers of societal collapse. This is not to blame women alone, for men follow suit in their own depravity, but Scripture highlights “their women” to underscore how the abandonment of biblical womanhood accelerates the plunge into chaos. Homosexuality, transgenderism, and all manner of sexual confusion flow from this root: a rejection of God’s anthropology, where man and woman are distinct, complementary, and ordered under patriarchal headship.

This judgment is not new; it echoes through the Old Testament as well. Consider Isaiah’s prophecy against Judah: “Youths oppress my people, women rule over them. My people, your guides lead you astray; they turn you from the path” (Isaiah 3:12). Here, the Lord declares that women and children ruling is a punishment and a divine curse upon a rebellious nation. When men abdicate their God-given authority, allowing women to seize the reins or children to dictate terms, it is not progress; it is peril. It is God’s hand of judgment, giving a people over to folly as in Romans 1. We see this today in our churches and homes: fathers passive, mothers domineering, children tyrannical. Feminism thrives in this vacuum, proclaiming “empowerment” while leading souls astray. Transgenderism follows, as confused youth unbridled and unguided by strong fathers and submissive mothers grasp at identities untethered from creation. Tthe plethora of sins multiplies: disrespect for authority, breakdown of families, even the erosion of civil order. Men, this is not cultural evolution; it is divine retribution for suppressing the truth about God and His order.

Yet, amid this darkness, Scripture exalts the path of obedience, particularly for women who embrace submission. Turn with me to 1 Peter 3:1-6, where the Apostle Peter, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, lifts up the glory of a submissive spirit. “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.” Oh, what a treasure trove of grace! Peter does not diminish women; he elevates them to imperishable beauty through submission. A gentle and quiet spirit is “very precious” to God—not a relic of patriarchy, but its crown jewel. Sarah, the matriarch, is held up as exemplar, obeying Abraham and calling him “lord.” Sisters, this is your high calling: not to compete with men, but to win them through godly conduct. In a world that screams for rights, Scripture whispers of rewards eternal. Submission is not weakness; it is warfare, disarming unbelief and reflecting Christ’s own submission to the Father.

This biblical anthropology of patriarchy is not confined to a few verses; it upholds all of Scripture, from Genesis to Revelation. In the beginning, Adam is formed first, given dominion, and Eve as his helper (Genesis 2:18-23; 1 Timothy 2:13). The curse of sin twists this order with woman desiring to rule her husband, man ruling harshly (Genesis 3:16) and yet redemption restores it through Christ. The Law reinforces it: fathers as heads of households, priests and kings as male leaders. The Psalms celebrate it: “Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord” (Psalm 128:3-4). The Prophets decry its inversion, as in Isaiah, and promise restoration: “I will give you shepherds after my own heart” (Jeremiah 3:15)—godly men leading. In the Gospels, Jesus affirms it, choosing twelve male apostles and teaching on marriage as male-female union under headship (Matthew 19:4-6). The Epistles codify it: no women elders (1 Timothy 3:2), head coverings symbolizing authority (1 Corinthians 11:3-16), and the church as bride submitting to Christ the Groom (Ephesians 5:22-33). Even Revelation envisions the New Jerusalem with patriarchal echoes the Lamb as Husband, the Church as spotless Bride.

Rise up to the challenge men

So, rise up, people of God! Let us cast off fear and reclaim the courage of the apostles, who spoke truth though the world raged against them. Return to the Scriptures with unwavering conviction. Men, lead your families with the boldness of Joshua, declaring, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15). Women, embrace the radiant calling of Proverbs 31, building homes that shine as beacons of God’s grace. Parents, teach your sons to be men like David, steadfast in faith, and your daughters to be women like Ruth, trusting in God’s design. Together, let us build churches that stand as fortresses of truth in a world of lies. Join us at Christ the King Church—visit ctkup.org—and let’s plant this flag in the Keweenaw, proclaiming Christ’s unchanging Word with hope and boldness. The darkness may gather, but our King reigns, and His light will not be overcome. All of Scripture breathes this truth: Patriarchy is God’s blueprint for flourishing, woven into creation, law, gospel, and glory. Our sin in the Church is not merely neglecting it; it is defying the Author of life. But repentance brings revival. Let us proclaim it boldly: Men, lead with Christlike sacrifice. Women, submit with Sarah-like faith. Families, order yourselves under God. Churches, guard this doctrine as life itself.

May God grant us courage to stand. The world will rage, but Christ reigns. Let us be faithful unto death, and He will give us the crown of life.

In the love of Christ, who is our Head,
Brandon Charbonneau